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HANDLING GRIEF

8/6/2017

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How anyone handles grief depends on their character, whether they naturally show emotion or are of the keep it all under control persuasion, and society pressures.  How do your characters handle grief and have you shown, earlier in the story, indications of how they handle emotion generally so when the grief happens we are not surprised at the way they react to it.

Grief can often be accompanied by guilt, usually at things left unsaid or undone.  How do your grieving characters cope with that?  Do they emerge from the grief better, stronger characters, perhaps better at showing their emotions openly than they had been before? Are they determined to show how much they love the family/friends they have left?

How does  your created world handle grief?  Does it encourage open emotions or are people expected to keep it to themselves?  Are there people the rest of society are expected to mourn at the appropriate time, whether the majority want to do so or not?  What is the punishment for those who won't conform to society's ideas here?
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Janet link
9/6/2017 12:57:33 am

Allison,

You've asked these deep, thought provoking questions.

Everyone deals with grief so differently. This question in particular is very challenging: "What is the punishment for those who won't conform to society's ideas here?" Yes, some societies have expectations of how a person should act in a situation, and if you are against the norm, you'll be singled out or get condemned. I know that in some funerals, some Chinese families would hire professional 'mourners' whose job is to cry (howling!). The familes want to be perceived as being sad, so they put on a 'show' in a way. Funerals at the church are a good way to say goodbye in a very meaningful way. There may not be lots of tears (as it's a celebration of life), but you feel love and genuine emotions. Being truthful is what matters.

Thanks for this beautiful piece of writing.

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