There are less obvious examples of defying convention in the Fairy Kingdom. L'Evallier, Chief Elf and later Council Leader, and his wife, Melanbury, do so in a quieter way. While both aristocratic and wealthy and having an arranged marriage (which ticks all the right boxes for the traditionalists), the pair of them commit the unthinkable sin of actually falling for one another and not being afraid to show it within their own circles!
The sprites, Wes and Stan prior to their exile, snigger at this, which L'Evallier and Melanbury ignore though their noble colleagues point out they should not be doing anything to trigger any kind of mockery. Eileen makes a few comments (mainly to get L'Evallier to develop his relationship with Melanbury properly in the first place) though these did not go down well (though he did follow Eileen's advice eventually).
Melanbury has gone on to work for the Queen directly, which a daughter of the aristocracy in the Fairy Kingdom is not supposed to do. Work is for peasants regardless of who the employer is but Melanbury ignores all that and her husband has come around to the idea. (That triggers disapproval amongst his fellow male nobles but he ignores that!).
Eileen is quite proud of how L'Evallier and Melanbury have developed here though they point out that they did this for themselves and others' opinions are irrevelant. In that, at least, the pair of them still have the old arrogant attitude of the nobility. Some conventions are too strong to defy after all!